Do First Appearances Matter?
I believe it does matter.
Most of us take special care over our appearance when meeting with prospective employers at job interviews and meeting new acquaintances at parties or other social events?
Good grooming is not just for others to get a good impression of you, but to make yourself feel good and confident about yourself. I think you some how slip into another “persona” almost, when you know you are looking good. While there is a time and a place to just be yourself most of us don’t want to meet strangers when we look like we just got out of bed.
I have learned that time does take its toll on the physical body and higher maintenace becomes necessary as you age. “Age-spots” adds another dimension to the make-up routine and good grooming as there is more to cover up! A term my husband adopted from my brother-in-law and loves to brandish, is that I have to “panel beat.” This is a South African description that refers to fixing vehicles that have been bumped, bruised and dented and need the services of a body shop. I will describe my “panel beating” routines in forthcoming blogs.
Although most of us take precautions to ensure against bad breath and body odor, there are still those who smell really nasty. It just makes it so hard to communicate with someone who has an unpleasant smell. Hand in hand with physical appearances is the need to be polite, speak clearly, use acceptable language and sit gracefully.
It is a sense of confidence that helps us to mingle with the crowd, and look for clues to make small talk that eases the ability to fit in and feel comfortable.
They say beauty is only skin deep, but feeling good about your appearance just helps to bring out the rest of the inner beauty which has a lot to do with good manners, considering the needs of others and the ability to communicate effectively. For more on this subject, browse the web page on Nonviolent Communication.
Just as we take care to improve our physical appearance, we need to watch other aspects of our lifestyles that can leave a lasting impression.